Practicing a Compassionate Ramadan: A Guide to Navigating the Midpoint

Giving and Seeking Support During Ramadan

As Ramadan reaches its midpoint, many individuals begin to experience fatigue and find it harder to maintain their initial momentum. The excitement of the beginning of Ramadan may fade, and energy levels can drop, making fasting feel more challenging. Whether you are fasting or have friends or family that are fasting, this is a crucial time to offer extra support, both to yourself and those around you. Whether you are supporting someone who is fasting or seeking help while fasting yourself, understanding how to navigate this period with compassion and care is essential. Understanding and recognizing this common struggle can help foster patience, self-compassion, and renewed intention for the rest of the month.

What is Ramadan?

Ramadan, the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, is a sacred time for Muslims around the world. It is believed to be the month in which the Quran, Islam’s holy book, was revealed to the Prophet Muhammad (SAW). During this month, Muslims fast from dawn to sunset, abstaining from food and drink while focusing on spiritual growth. It is a time of deep reflection, increased prayer, and strengthening one’s Iman (faith). Muslims also dedicate themselves to reading the Quran, performing good deeds, and giving to charity. Ramadan concludes with Eid al-Fitr, a joyous three-day celebration marking the end of fasting, known as the “festival of breaking the fast.”

How to Support Those Observing Ramadan

1. Be Mindful of Fasting Hours

Those who observe Ramadan abstain from food and drink from sunrise (Suhoor) until sunset (Iftar). If you have friends, colleagues, or classmates who are fasting, being mindful of their schedule can go a long way. Avoid scheduling lunch meetings or food-related events during fasting hours and be considerate in social settings.

2. Respect Their Commitment

Fasting is not just about food—it is a time of spiritual growth and self-discipline. Avoid making comments about their fast being “too hard” or asking if they are “allowed” to do certain things. Instead, offer words of encouragement and respect their religious observance.

3. Accommodate When Possible

If you manage a workplace or classroom, consider small accommodations such as allowing flexible break times or adjusting workloads to accommodate lower energy levels in the late afternoon. If you are hosting an event, providing halal food options and acknowledging fasting individuals can make a meaningful impact.

4. Join in Acts of Charity and Reflection

Ramadan emphasizes generosity and community. Supporting local food drives, donating to charities, or simply engaging in deeper self-reflection alongside fasting friends can be a great way to show solidarity and appreciation for this special time. Even fasting alongside your friends or colleagues for a day can be a meaningful gesture. 

Seeking Support While Fasting

1. Prioritize Your Well-being

Fasting can be physically and emotionally demanding. If you find yourself struggling with fatigue, mood changes, or dehydration, listen to your body and make necessary adjustments. These adjustments can include taking a nap, reading the Quran, or spending time with loved ones as a distraction. Suhoor and Iftar meals should be balanced and hydrating to sustain energy throughout the day. Remember food is sustenance so avoid placing labels such as “good” or “bad” on food and focus on gratitude for a day of fasting followed by nourishment.

2. Know That Exceptions Exist

Remember that Ramadan is not a time for hardship, as emphasized in Surah al-Baqarah (2:185). Islam provides flexibility for those who are unable to fast due to illness, pregnancy, travel, or other valid reasons. If fasting is negatively impacting your mental or physical health, you may be exempt, and alternatives such as charitable giving (Fidya) or making up the fast later can be considered.

3. Seek Community and Emotional Support

If fasting feels isolating or overwhelming, connect with others observing Ramadan. Attending community Iftars, engaging in group prayers at the local mosque, or simply reaching out to supportive friends or family can help alleviate feelings of loneliness. Check your local mosque, community center, or social media groups for such gatherings. If you are a college student, reach out to your campus’ Muslim Student Association Group for support and events. Be curious about what accommodations are available on campus, such as flexible dining hall hours for Iftar and accommodations for exams or events scheduled during Iftar time or Eid.

4. Speak to a Trusted Support System

For some, Ramadan can be a challenging time depending on their experiences with the faith. If fasting is affecting your mental health, consider speaking with a therapist, religious leader, or trusted mentor. Remember that struggling during Ramadan does not mean you are a “bad” Muslim. Rather it is a normal part of the experience and can be an opportunity for growth. Seeking support is not a sign of weakness but rather an important step in maintaining balance between spiritual and personal well-being.

A Compassionate Ramadan for All

Whether you are fasting or supporting someone who is, kindness and understanding go a long way. Acknowledging the significance of Ramadan, showing respect, and offering support can make this time more meaningful and inclusive for everyone.